Between ups and downs
significant moments experienced by long-lived couples
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https://doi.org/10.15448/1980-8623.2023.1.39158Keywords:
marital relationships, marital satisfaction, parenthoodAbstract
Long-term relationships can be shaped by moments considered remarkable. Such experiences are an important reference to understand the satisfaction with the ways to build marital bonds. The aim of this study was to understand how couples engaged in long-term relationships perceive the “best” and “worst” moments experienced in conjugality. Twenty five married couples, united for 39.5 years on average, were interviewed. The experience of parenting and family life were identified as the best moments and, as worst experiences, facing the illness or death of a family member and financial difficulties. It is concluded that, for the couples interviewed, family life and parental care are perceived as determints of marital satisfaction. Marital relationships tend to be classified dichotomously, as good or bad, based on punctual facts that elicit satisfaction or dissatisfaction with the relationship, without considering that the romantic bond is dynamic and therefore sensitive to better and worse moments.
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